The Key to a Healthy Sex Life is to become a Sexpert!

Most of you have already done the dirty deed with your new Bride. But here are a few ideas to spice up the wedding night and honeymoon:

Suggest abstaining for a few weeks before the wedding to increase the lust. Have the bedroom decorated before you arrive. We suggest giving the other room key to a bridesmaid who can show up to the room and hour or so before to decorate the room with candles and rose petals that you have previously purchased. It adds a nice touch when entering the room. Don’t forget to carry her in. The day may have been long for you but it was longer for her. You may wish to sleep and consummate (getting down with ill freaky) your new relationship on your honeymoon. Once in the suite the mood may be affected by wedding night jitters. But don’t sweat it. Her feet are killing her from those overpriced shoes, so start by removing her shoes and giving a foot massage. Slowly progress to a full massage accompanied by some soft music.

Nothing sets the mood better then a room filled to the brim with guilty pleasures. Prior to the wedding night or the first night of the honeymoon, consider picking up a few items to set the tone for a romantic evening:

• Chocolates
• Fruit
• Champagne or Wine
• Rose petals
• Scented candles
• Music

The idea is to create an environment that will cater to all her senses. Here are a few suggestions on what to decorate the room with:

Rose petals and Exotic flowers
- Most florists will have small bags of fresh roses petals for purchase that will last several days. Spread them along the floor leading from the door to the bed. Lay them out on the bed as well. Consider a few bouquets of roses or some more exotic flowers such as orchids, violets or lilies.

Scented Candles
• You can find them at finer department stores or specialty shops. Choose several different sizes of candles of the same color preferably white or ivory to group together around the room. Don’t forget to put a few near the tub for that romantic bubble bath for two.

• You can never have too many in the room…unless it becomes a fire hazard. Place the candles on red construction paper to prevent having to scrape the wax off the furniture. Never fall asleep with the candles on and don’t blow them all out at the same time as the fire alarm may go off!!!

• Don’t forget to purchase a lighter


Chocolate:
• All women love chocolate, especially Godiva Chocolate. Select her personal favorites at www.godiva.com


Music:
• Music can definitely set the mood for a romantic evening. Consider making a mixed CD.

TheGroomGuide.com recommended song selections:

• Marvin Gaye- Let’s Get It On
• Chris Issac - Never Fall In Love
• Sam Cook - (A Pitiful Romantic)
• Stevie Wonder (Underrated)
• Sade- Cherish the Love
• Barry White (The Chocolate Love Bear)
• Billie Holiday- (A classic…on the subtle side)

Champagne:
Now is a good time to splurge on the bottle of Cristal.

• Here’s a short list of our personal favorites:

           Dom Perignon
           Perrier-Jouet
           Veuve Clicquot
           Or just screw it and go with a bottle of Andre

• Check out the www.wine.com for an extensive selection of fine champagnes and wine.

Fruit: What ever she likes will do. Raspberries and Strawberries, which go great with chocolate, are always a hit.

The Art of Making Love:

Rule #1, take your time! A lot of guys have forgotten how to do this, according to the women we polled. This is a special moment, and special occasions require extra care. Pay attention to this detail, and you will both be rewarded. But be careful not to appear to fake and staged. Be genuine and sincere. Try to convey to your bride that this isn’t just a routine romp in the hay. She is worth the time and effort. A good analogy is eating at an expensive restaurant. You don’t wolf the food down in a single bite. You take the time to enjoy every last morsel; every single course is savored and remembered. Use this analogy and put it to work while you are making love with your new wife.
Start by slowly undressing your new wife out of her gown. Take a moment to enjoy here lingerie that she spent days picking out for you. This can help build up the sexual tension and romance. Tell her how beautiful and sexy she looks. Chances are she’ll be too tired to undress herself anyways. Since both of you are probably exhausted from all the wedding festivities; it might be nice to start off with long warm bath. Add some bath salts/suds and light a few candles. Play some soft music and take time to talk about your wonderful day while you soak in the bubble bath. If you can swing them, scented candles are the best way to go. Lavender scented candles are sure to please both your senses. As far as suds and salts, check out Body Shop or Bath and Body Works for some nice selections. A lot of kissing, touching, and caressing in the tub is highly recommended. The bath will relax both of you, and dissolve any uneasy feelings you might have. It’s also a good way to get romantically energized for the night’s main event. After your bath, put on those soft and fuzzy hotel robes and take some time to indulge in all of the items you have placed inside the bedroom. Sip on the champagne, nibble on some chocolate and fruit, and listen to some music. Toast your love and new life together.
The rest of the night should be pretty self-explanatory from here. But in case you might have forgotten, we’ll give you a quick lesson on where women want to be touched and kissed:

• The Neck

• The Inner thighs (A hot spot for a lot of women. Don’t neglect it.)

• Legs and Feet

• Buttocks (duh)

• Arms (Caressing a women’s arms can leave them at your mercy.)

• Back of the Knees (A neglected hot spot.)

• Breasts (These aren’t toys. Regardless of how big or small they are, make sure you handle them with great care. Don’t grab the nipples like they’re a TV turn-knobs. Nipples are for caressing and kissing. Attend to them with great care.)


For the Virgin in the House:
You are a dying breed. You have waited so long!! The expectations may be high. Not to kill your hopes, but the first time may be not be what you had expected. Don’t worry! It gets a lot better. You have plenty of time to enjoy each other, so take it slow. Don’t try out every move you learned from Ron Jeremy. If you don’t know who Ron Jeremy is, you should rent a few of his movies so you can learn the basics. The key for you is going to be foreplay. If she’s a virgin too, she’s not going to be ready to just go at it. So, start with the foot massage, kiss her neck, and slowly remove her dress. Take a moment to enjoy here lingerie that she spent days picking out for you. Tell her how beautiful and sexy she looks. A lot of virgins will be nervous about what their new bride might think of their performance. Women understand that the pressure can be overwhelming, and usually are just happy to form an intimate bond with their new spouse. If your bride is a virgin as well, then “no worries;” there aren’t any expectations. Chances are she’s concerned about performing for you as well. So, reassure her, make her comfortable and just enjoy exploring together. There is plenty of time to get better at lovemaking, and one of the great things about being a married couple is that you can learn together. Keep in mind that your new wife picked you to her husband for many reasons. Life is a lot more then just sex, and she understands this. Practice makes perfect. But if you are totally freaked out, check out The Better Sex Videos for a little introductory information.