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1. Don’t say, “Just tell
me when to show up.”
Nothing will make her happier, nothing will make her
realize she made the right decision by saying yes,
and nothing will make your life easier, than if you
can suck it up and show a little interest.
2. Don’t ever say throughout this entire process,
“I don’t care” when asked your opinion.
We suggest you even stay away from “It’s
up to you, baby.” Always offer input and your
opinion carefully. If asked which you like better,
select one, even if you don’t care. Sometimes
you have to tailor your opinion in order to build her confidence
on a decision. There is nothing wrong with saying,
“whatever you want honey, I just want you to
be happy.”
3. Don’t complain about the cost of things.
Getting hitched gives vendors the chance to really
take you for a ride. Engagements can be complicated
by stressful discussions concerning the budget. Set
your budget and negotiate every cost to the best of
your ability. Explain your budget to your vendors
and see what they can offer you within your budget.
Prioritize what is most important to both of you;
so that you know what you can skimp on and what you
can’t.
4. Don’t skimp on the bar or the entertainment.
People always remember the annoying cash bar with
one bartender or the DJ that played “Come on
Eileen” twice. No one remembers the cake or
even the food. A good party needs lots of free drinks
and a jammin’ band.
5. Don’t spend every waking moment together
talking about and planning the wedding.
Set aside time at least once a week, in which you spend enjoying each other.
6. Don’t leave gift registration responsibilities
all to your bride.
Help decide what bridal registries you are going to
use. Be aware that your bride may have strong opinions
on this one. Understand you will need house stuff,
like duvet covers, china, new glasses, but show your
interest by noting which store has the wine glasses
you like; or which store has the best appliances to
meet your needs. Just make sure you pick things of
a varying price range to allow all your guests to
buy a gift that is within their means. After she has
made the final decisions on a place or two, suggest
places like Target, Best Buy, Sears, Home Depot, for
items that you would like, such as tools, grills,
sporting equipment and electronics.
7. Don’t wait to be told to do something.
Volunteer and offer to do things before she asks you
to. It will make you look interested and save you
from the, “I can’t do this all by myself”
argument. See
the official checklist.
8. Don’t think everything is under your control.
No matter how well you plan, no matter how many times
you double check everything, something will happen
that you can’t control. Flowers will end up
at the wrong church, it may rain the entire day, your
limo driver may fall asleep or the minister may be
late. Be prepared for anything. Don’t sweat
it and laugh it off.
9. Don’t wait until the last moment (ie. the
frickin’ alter) to decide you no longer want
to get married.
This is kind of important. Just our opinion though.
We all get a little cold feet, but if you are having
serious doubts about marrying your bride, call the
wedding off now and postpone the date or cancel it
completely. Nothing is worse than having nonrefundable,
round-trip tickets to Dayton, Ohio and finding out
two days before that the wedding is off. However,
the Air Force Museum is worth the trip, even from California.
10. Don’t forget that this is supposed to be
fun!!! So if things get hectic, take your future Bride aside and tell her how excited you are to be marrying her. Then do something that's not wedding related for the rest of the day.
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