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Is
She Miss Right?
Ever ask the question, “How do you know she is
Miss Right?” or “Can I really only sleep
with one girl for the rest of my life?” These
are questions that every guy asks himself before popping
the question. Take comfort in the fact that everyone
feels this way and that it is perfectly normal to question
it. Take as long as you need. This decision will obviously
affect the rest of your life. Pretty scary. Here are
a few things to think about before you get down on one
knee.
Goals
What are your life goals and her goals? Do they agree?
Does she want lots of babies now or is she a career
woman with little interest in starting a family at
all? Talk about long-term professional goals and goals
as a couple.
Location
Location can also be an issue. A long distance relationship
can be difficult, but a long distance marriage can
be disastrous. Talk about where jobs may take you
and where you would like to settle down; east coast,
west coast, big city or hometown. This can be especially
important to your future wife. She may want to be
close to her family when she starts her own.
Family
Couples don’t always get along with each other
families, but it’s important they do. A woman
who gets along with your mom is always a good thing.
Recognize this. In the future you are going to want
to feel comfortable in each other’s parents
home. Often times you may find yourself taking sides,
which can only create tension. If her Dad’s
loaded, keep your mouth shut and smile.
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Friends
Do you get along with her friends? Once married, they
will become your friends too. Opposites attract, but
you and your future wife should have the same instinct
for choosing friends. Some friends come between couples.
These friends need to be terminated in order
for a healthy relationship to continue. Friends are
for life, but your marriage won’t go the distance
if a friend gets in the way. Marriage is a good excuse
to get rid of any high maintenance friends. The cocaine
snorting stockbroker, the incarcerated girl’s
soccer coach, and the friend with the huge gambling
debt all fall into this category.
Note: If 10 out of 10 friends think your girlfriend
is a @#*@, they may be onto something. Keep shopping!
Hobbies and
interests
Some things should remain sacred, like golf for example.
However, it is important that you enjoy your free
time with some similar activities. Is your idea of
a vacation climbing Mount Everest and her revisiting
Epcot Center for the umpteenth time? Skiers marry
skiers and Harley-Davidson enthusiasts marry biker
girls, but politicians don’t marry strippers,
it’s bad for business. Remember, that marriage
is about compromise. But if your wife shares similar
interests, there will be less to compromise on. So,
go out and find an outdoorsy, football-watching, dime-pinching,
sex-loving, poker-playing alcoholic! Or not…….
Prenuptials
To do or not to do. Always a hard subject. However,
the divorce rate in America is almost 50%, so we suggest
you seriously consider it if you are someone of substantial
wealth. Be sure to bring this topic up slowly and
with as much discretion as possible.
BAD Example:
“ Yo! Time to sign my alibi, honey!”
Even Worse:
"Sweetie, we need
to talk about something that deals with money..And
keeping your grubby hands off of it…you know…just
in case…..you know. if things go bad."
In all seriousness, nothing deflates romance faster
than money. If you are a professional athlete (NBA,
NFL, NHL, PGA, MLB, CBA) and your future wife is a
hairdresser …take note! Talk with an attorney
about your particular situation. You’ll thank
us later, and if it goes bad, drinks are on the house. |
